Hey love, Somewhere out there right now, a woman is staring at her to-do list, whispering “just get through it.”And somewhere else, another woman just decided to burn that list and take a nap instead. Guess which one’s joining Pleasure Before Presents on Friday? 😏 This is the week we stop calling depletion normal.We stop being the emotional janitors of everyone else’s chaos.We stop overfunctioning while undernourished. We gather to reprogram the entire holiday season — from “perform + please”...
9 days ago • 1 min read
Hey beautiful, The world keeps telling women how to survive the holidays.But you weren’t born to survive anything — you were born to seduce everything. This season isn’t about enduring chaos with a smile plastered on your face.It’s about being worshipped in your softness. It’s about being seen, adored, fed on every level. 🎁 Pleasure Before Presents is your permission slip to do the holidays differently.No more martyrdom. No more managing everyone’s moods.Just radiant, well-rested, turned-on...
11 days ago • 1 min read
Goddess, Every year we say, “This holiday season will be different.” But usually it becomes… – giving until we’re empty – carrying everyone’s emotions + expectations – hosting, coordinating, wrapping, performing …while our own pleasure gets boxed away with last year’s ornaments. Not this year. This year, we’re choosing: • soft instead of stressed • rested instead of rushed • receiving instead of over-giving • Pleasure. Before. Presents. And I’m inviting you into a space where we practice that...
17 days ago • 1 min read
Hey love, Let’s talk desire.Specifically: why yours didn’t “fade with age” — it just got buried under life. You know this already, but let me say it plainly:A turned-on woman is a problem… for every system that benefits from her being exhausted, humble, self-doubting, over-giving, and under-pleasured. But she’s also unstoppable.Magnetic.Fully alive.And when she remembers who the hell she is?The whole world shifts. So how do you get that woman back? Here’s the four-step blueprint I teach — the...
22 days ago • 2 min read
Hey love, Tell me if this sounds familiar: You wait to “feel in the mood” before you touch yourself.Before you say yes to intimacy.Before you allow yourself to even think about pleasure. And nine times out of ten… that mood never comes. Here’s the truth no one ever taught us: 👉 Desire doesn’t show up first. It shows up after. Your body doesn’t magically light up out of nowhere. Turn-on is responsive — it happens once you start engaging your senses, your breath, your body. Waiting to be “in...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
The “sex ed” you got at 13? Garbage. Fear, shame, and a lot of silence about your actual body, your desire, and your pleasure. That silence wasn’t random. It was strategic. Patriarchy profits when women believe lies like: – You’re only worthy if you’re young, thin, and smooth – Your desire is dangerous or shameful – Your sexuality must be hidden or controlled The Pleasure Protocol is the antidote.It's the manual you should’ve been handed at puberty.Science + sensuality. Nervous system resets....
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Goddess, I can’t hold it in anymore — today’s the day!!! You’ve heard me talk about the ache. The frustration. The years I spent wondering why my body betrayed me and my sex drive ghosted me. The way desire had flatlined, confidence tanked, and pleasure felt like a distant memory. thought this was just what happens after 40. But here’s the truth: I wasn’t broken.And neither are you. What I discovered is that your brain and body are built for turn-on—you just need a roadmap to get back there....
3 months ago • 2 min read
I get asked some version of this question all the time: “How did you go from turned-off, numb, and stuck in a 24-year marriage… …to TURNED-ON AF, alive in your body, and in the kind of relationship that melts you in the best way?” Here’s the truth: three years ago, I was a numb, exhausted 50-year-old woman—staring in the mirror wondering if I’d ever feel sexy, wanted, or alive again. Fast forward to today? I’m wetter, wilder, and more magnetic than I was in my 20s.I’ve got a love life that...
3 months ago • 1 min read
There was a stretch of time when I thought my sex drive had just… left the building. I wasn’t turned on. Wasn’t craving sex.And when I did try? It felt... flat. Mechanical. Like something I was “supposed” to enjoy but mostly just wanted to get over with. And I thought: Well, this is just what happens, right?This is what everyone says about getting older.Hormones shift. Vaginas dry up. Desire dwindles.Totally normal. Except… it’s not. That’s not the truth.That’s the conditioning. Because let’s...
4 months ago • 2 min read
Sister, Let’s not sugarcoat it. What’s happening in this country right now?It’s not normal. And it’s not okay. The fascist playbook is being followed line by chilling line — and if you’ve felt panicked, enraged, numb, or utterly exhausted, that makes sense. You’re not crazy. You’re not overreacting. You’re AWAKE. And here’s the trap I don’t want you to fall into: Thinking your only options are Tune it all out (because it’s “too much”), or Get swallowed by despair and doomscrolling. No,...
7 months ago • 2 min read